Here's the deal, my girlfriend who I've been living with for 4 years has seemed to find an emotional connection with someone other than me. At this point in my life I am not allowed to meed her, and as far as I know from my girls point of view she has deeper conversations with her than me and she feels as if she really enjoys talking to her.Not only has that left me emotionally staggered, she's having a hard time showing me love because a sista is in a bind right now. I'm about to work two jobs and go to class to make ends meet, and her opinion of me is that I'm irresponsible and weak. I know who the woman my girl is refusing to let me meet. She says their just friends, and I WANT to trust her...but I haven't ever felt like I needed to hide someone I know from her. I love her every-time she gets upset with me now she leave and goes out to talk to her on the phone, apparently on the last few occasions shes scheduled to meet her in private and got stood up twice.
Every time this happened she came home to me upset, and irritated with me for no apparent reason. I guess I'm questioning it because I'd never do something like that to her. If I felt I was crossing the line emotionally with someone I'd make a note to invite my giremotional infidelityl out with me to keep establish boundaries. What I don't like is that she does things in private with the girl and then tells me a month or two later. I found out about her after I lost my job two months ago and a strange number appeared in the phone. My girlfriend denied any calls but after feeling suspicious, I checked our phone records and she had called her on several occasions behind my back. Am I being paranoid or should I be worried?
There is something really wrong with her not letting you meet the "friend". If there was nothing to hide, then you should be allowed to at least meet her and hang out. Her lying about the calls is a clear red flag, too.
Sounds like a no-brainer cheat to me, whether anything is going on or not, she is hiding SOMETHING. And I know women are great at making excuses for the significant other and making things ok, but I dont think this is the case where you should do that. Try talking to her up-front one more time, approach the phone issue, and get a straight answer about WHY you cant meet the friend if nothing bad is going on. If she doesnt respond again, you'll have your answer - time for you to walk away, keep your dignity, and let her keep her little "friendship" on the siemotional infidelityde.
Love is not a waning season, it is the reason.
Where love exists, Questions will too.
But let not any pessimism bog you down. Discuss things with her. You love her, and if you do, you can take theheart to discuss things with her. Dont jump into conclusions. Will you stop loving her because she loves someone else? when the answer for this question is no. then why bother.
I think there is a bond between them, but being stood up twice might break it. What ever it is, it is, pal, so you might want to think about moving on. No matter how much you love a woman it won't make them love you--love isn't a 50-50 deal, it is usually a 60-40 deal and they seem to work. Sometime one does all the loving and the giving while the other does all the taking and that can work for awhile. I think if your woman has taken solace in another woman--even if it doesn't work out for her--she'll be looking for another one. So, it may be innocent and you've read it wrong, or she may end up in a sexual relationship with another woman. If you can live with it, then go with the flow for awhile--get yourself a bimbo to relieve the pressure while it plays out.
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